my mom n bestfriend

[katelyn]

   My mom had a stroke n than found a blood clot on the right side of her brain they did surgery to try n desolve it it worked alittle and there was a few more but she was talking well mumbleing and than lost it that night her brain swelled now she had surgery again to remove part of skull to let it un-swell is this common im so scared to lose my mom im not worried about her not talking or walking she can go to rehab but any answers i am 22 its my mom n bestfriend i am very scared need comfort and answers please thanks anything helps but the truth is the best

[Tinkerr]

Hi,

My name is victoria and i am 18. I have a very similar story to yours. My mom (who is my best friend and my world) had a heart attack in January of 2009, and was without oxygen for 5 minutes, and once they revived her she slipped into a coma. She woke up around mid-march 2009 but has some to a lot of brain damage. She is in the recoverey process right now and is slowly slowly getting better. I really hope that you can relate to my story, it sucks when this is happening to you and you feel like everyone around you has perfect lives. please write back and let me know if this helped.

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[Ric J]

Having surgery to have a piece of bone removed from our skulls to allow the swelling to dispersant is, unfortunately, very common. It happened to me. Your mom will still be your best friend but most importantly you are now her best advocate. I was induced into a coma, because of the surgery (and the injury), and had to wear a helmet, go into speech, cognitive, physical, and occupation therapy. It was very hard for me but we do heal. But it is a long, slow ride. The surgery to have the bone placed back in was four months later. The only good thing from that "last" surgery was that I didn't have to wear the helmet anymore, but my therapies still continued. It's hard not worry about "what will be", but sit with her, talk to her, let her know you are there for her. Give her time, healing takes a lot of time, effort and energy and can only happen in her own pace. You will see her having good days and bad days. Keep the faith, never give up. She is healing right now.